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Why Trying Harder Isn’t Always the Answer

September 15, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

We live in a culture that worships effort.

Push through.
Try harder.
No excuses.
Mind over matter.

It values results over process, personality over character.

If you’ve been on a long healing journey, you’ve probably absorbed this mindset. It sounds something like:

  • “If I were more disciplined, I’d feel better by now.”
  • “I just need to follow the protocol perfectly.”
  • “Maybe I haven’t tried hard enough.”
  • “Maybe I should find a different doctor.”
  • “Maybe ChatGPT has the right answer.”

Here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear:

If trying harder were the answer, you’d be healed already.
You are not unwell because you’re undisciplined.
You are not stuck because you’re lazy, stupid, or haven’t found the right answer.
In fact, many people I work with are trying too hard—and it’s wearing their bodies down. They spend hours on the internet researching their conditions. Or trying all kinds of treatments that may conflict with one another. 

Sometimes, more effort isn’t healing.
Sometimes, it’s just more stress in disguise.

What comes to mind is the serenity prayer from Alcoholics Anonymous, which asks for the ability to accept what cannot be changed, the courage to change what can be, and the wisdom to know the difference. When dealing with health issues, how powerful is that!

When Effort Becomes a Trauma Response

Trying harder feels noble, but for many of us, it’s actually a nervous system habit—a survival strategy born from past trauma and/or chronic stress.

If you grew up in an unpredictable environment, you may have learned that safety came from:

  • Being the high achiever
  • Fixing everything
  • Never resting
  • Staying vigilant

In your adult life, that might translate into hyper-responsibility. You become the person who researches every symptom, manages a supplement cabinet like a pharmacy, tracks every bite of food, and schedules every minute of your healing plan.

It looks like dedication.
But underneath?
Fear. Tension. Apprehension. Exhaustion.

Your nervous system is still trying to stay safe by doing more. But that doing more comes with a cost. 

The Hidden Cost of “More”

Pushing yourself—especially when your body is already depleted—can actually move you further away from healing.

Why?

Because it keeps your sympathetic nervous system dominant—the fight/flight system.

  • Your body thinks you’re under threat, even if the “threat” is following a healing plan rigidly.
  • Cortisol stays high or dysregulated.
  • Digestion and immune function go offline.
  • Inflammation increases.
  • Restorative sleep becomes harder.

This is the classic paradox:
The more you push, the more your body resists.
The more you try to control, the more dysregulated you feel.

(I’m ignoring the freeze response for the moment.)

Doing Less Can Be Deeply Healing

This is where we flip the script:

Healing isn’t about perfection.
It’s about safety.
It’s about permission.
It’s about trust.

For many people, the real medicine is learning to let go, not pushing through.

That might look like:

  • Taking one day off your supplement schedule to rest
  • Eating a meal without over-analyzing every ingredient
  • Skipping a workout in favor of a nap (this is BIG).
  • Let yourself cry instead of muscling through
  • Trusting in something greater than you (or the wisdom of your body) to allow healing to occur

These aren’t signs of failure.
They’re signs of nervous system healing.
Of allowing your body to shift out of effort and into receptivity.

Healing doesn’t happen in effort mode.
It happens in repair mode—parasympathetic mode—where your cells regenerate, your gut restores, and your immune system recalibrates.

But what if I stop trying and get worse?

This fear is so common. It sounds like:

  • “If I let go of my routine, I’ll fall apart.”
  • “If I stop being strict, my symptoms will come back.”
  • “If I rest, I’m giving up.”
  • “I feel worse when I sleep too much.”

Let me offer another possibility:

What if your symptoms are asking you to do less?
What if your fatigue, anxiety, or pain is your body saying, “Enough. I need softness now?”

Letting go isn’t the same as giving up.
It’s giving over—to your deeper wisdom.
To the part of you that knows forcing doesn’t lead to peace.

Three Healing Shifts to Make When “Trying Harder” Isn’t Working

1. Trade Discipline for Devotion

Discipline is external. It’s about rules, expectations, control.
Devotion is internal. It’s about care, respect, and love.

Instead of: “I have to follow this protocol perfectly.”
Try: “How can I honor my body today?”

Healing becomes less about force, and more about listening. Listen to what you’re feeling.

2. Let Rest Be Productive

We often think rest is what we earn after doing enough.
But in healing, rest is the work. (And I would argue that having a regular bedtime is important too.)

Rest recalibrates your hormones.
It repairs your gut lining.
It allows your brain to detoxify.

Rest isn’t lazy. It’s biologically intelligent.

What if resting—before you crash—was the most advanced healing tool you had?

3. Soften the Inner Critic

When you live with chronic symptoms, it’s easy to feel like your body is failing you—and to internalize that failure.

An inner voice may whisper:

  • “You’re not doing enough.”
  • “Other people are healing faster.”
  • “You should have figured this out by now.”

This voice doesn’t help.
It reactivates stress, shame, and self-doubt.

The antidote?
Curiosity. Compassion. Connection.

Try saying:

  • “I’m doing my best with what I know.”
  • “It’s okay to pause.”
  • “My body is doing its best to protect me.”
  • “What am I feeling right now?”

You’re Allowed to Let It Be Easier

This doesn’t mean you stop caring.
It means you stop fighting yourself in the name of healing.

It means releasing the belief that suffering is required.
That only the hardest path is valid.
That healing has to look a certain way.

You’re allowed to feel better without earning it.
You’re allowed to rest without guilt.
You’re allowed to stop trying harder—and start healing smarter.

What If Your Healing Isn’t a Battle… But a Surrender?

Imagine your healing journey not as a mountain to climb, but as a path to soften into.
Not a battle to win, but a trust fall into your own body’s wisdom.

This doesn’t mean you never take action.
It means your actions stem from alignment—not anxiety or fear.

That’s where true healing begins.

Coming Up: “Symptoms as Signals, Not Enemies.”

In our next post, we’ll dive into the power of reframing symptoms—not as problems to fix, but as messages to understand.

Until then, I invite you to pause.
Take a breath.
Loosen your grip.
Let something be easier today.

You are healing, even now.

P.S. My upcoming workshop, “Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis,” explores exactly this shift—from force to flow, from trying to trusting.
Be the first to hear when registration opens 

 

Also to catch up on the previous articles in this story you can go here.

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Responsibility Without Blame: The Key to Healing

September 8, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

It’s Not Your Fault—But It Is Your Responsibility

If you’ve struggled with chronic symptoms—anxiety, fatigue, hormone imbalance, pain, or illness—then you probably know the frustration of doing all the things: the diets, the supplements, the labs, the protocols.

And yet… you’re still not where you want to be.

That’s when the quiet, painful question sneaks in:
“What am I doing wrong?”
And just beneath it:
“Is this somehow my fault?”

Let me say this clearly: No, it’s not your fault.
But—healing is your responsibility.

And that difference may be the very thing that unlocks lasting change.

You Didn’t Choose This Starting Point

None of us chooses our starting point.

We don’t choose our genes.
We don’t choose the level of stress or trauma our nervous systems absorbed as kids.
We don’t choose the air we breathe, the food we were fed, or the emotional climate of the homes we grew up in.

Many of the patterns you’re living with now were set in motion long before you had any say:

  • Early infections or antibiotics primed your immune system.
  • A childhood of unpredictability or criticism trained your stress response.
  • Years of overwork or neglect left imprints on your gut, hormones, and sleep.

So when I say it’s not your fault, I mean it with deep compassion. These challenges are part of a much larger web—biological, emotional, cultural, even generational. You didn’t create it.

But You Are the One Who Can Change It

Here’s the paradox: while you didn’t cause it, you are the only one with the power to shift it.

This is what I mean by responsibility.

Responsibility isn’t blame. It’s not guilt. It’s not “I should have known better.”

Responsibility is ownership. It’s the moment you say:
“This is mine now. And I get to decide what happens next.”

That’s the turning point.

Why Ownership Without Blame Is So Powerful

Blame sounds like: “I’m broken. It’s my fault. I’ll never get better.”
Outsourcing sounds like: “Someone else has to fix me. I hope they figure it out.”

Responsibility sounds like: “I may not have caused this, but I can respond to it.”

That shift doesn’t just change your outlook—it changes your biology.

When you reclaim agency, your nervous system moves out of survival mode. Your immune system recalibrates. Your gut, hormones, and repair pathways respond.

This is biology listening to story.

The Trap of Learned Helplessness

One of the deepest wounds of chronic illness is learned helplessness—the sense that nothing you do makes a difference.

But helplessness isn’t just emotional—it’s physiological:

  • Cortisol dysregulates.
  • Inflammation rises.
  • Cellular repair slows.
  • The nervous system stays in overdrive.

The body prepares for danger, not healing.

That’s why one of the most important interventions isn’t another supplement or protocol—it’s restoring a sense of power. Not control. Not perfection. Just the deep knowing that what you do matters.

The Key to Healing: Three Ways to Step Into Responsibility (Without Blame)

1. Name What You Didn’t Choose—Then Name What You Can Now

Acknowledge what wasn’t yours: the childhood, the environment, the genetics.
Then ask: What is in my hands now?

  • The rhythm of your day
  • The way you breathe when you feel stressed
  • The choice to pause instead of push
  • The boundaries you set around rest and nourishment

This is your territory. This is where healing begins.

2. Choose Curiosity Over Judgment

Responsibility is not self-criticism. It’s self-inquiry.

  • Why do I crave sugar when I feel anxious?
  • What is my body asking for when a headache comes?
  • Where did I learn to ignore my needs until I crash?

Judgment shuts the door. Curiosity opens it.

3. Rewrite the Story You’ve Been Carrying

Often what keeps us stuck isn’t the symptom—it’s the story.

“I’m always the sick one.”
“I never finish things.”
“Healing is hard for people like me.”

These aren’t facts. They’re scripts. And scripts can be rewritten.

When you shift the story, your body follows.

You Are Not to Blame. You Are Not Broken. You Are Becoming.

Here’s the truth I want you to hold:

You are not at fault for what happened to you.
You are not broken because you’re still healing.
And you are not powerless to change.

The moment you take loving responsibility, you stop being a victim of your past and begin authoring your future.

That’s not just hopeful—it’s biology in action.

✨ If this resonates, you’ll love the upcoming workshop:
Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.

Together, we’ll explore these shifts through guided reflection, nervous system practices, and group coaching—so you can finally let go of blame and step fully into your power.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

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Spirituality and Health: A Deep Dive A conversation with Dr. Dickson Thom DDS, ND

September 8, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode of the Ask Dr. Gil podcast, Dr. Dick Thom, a seasoned naturopathic physician, discusses the nature of healing, the importance of following natural laws, and the role of spirituality in health. He emphasizes that spontaneous healing is possible when individuals adhere to proper nutrition, hydration, and self-care practices. The conversation also explores how beliefs and mind-body connections influence health outcomes, and the significance of self-care in maintaining well-being.

  • Healing is possible when following natural laws.
  • Spiritual beliefs can significantly impact healing.
  • Nutrition and hydration are crucial for health.
  • Self-care practices are essential for well-being.
  • Understanding the root cause of symptoms is vital.
  • The mind-body connection plays a key role in health.
  • Patients often seek quick fixes instead of addressing underlying issues.
  • Beliefs about health can shape recovery outcomes.
  • Grounding and connecting with nature can enhance health.
  • Regular self-reflection and care are important for health.
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Soliman Auricular Allergy Treatment (SAAT) is the treatment I mention in the episode for MCAS

Transforming Self-Talk for Better Health

September 1, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode of Ask Dr. Gil, Dr. Gil Winkelman explores the profound impact of self-talk on our health and well-being. He discusses how negative self-talk can shape our identities and influence our decisions, often leading to a cycle of self-criticism and limiting beliefs. Dr. Winkelman emphasizes the importance of recognizing and rewriting these narratives to foster self-compassion and improve mental health. He also highlights the unconscious processes that contribute to our self-perception and offers insights on how to cultivate a more positive internal dialogue.

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  • We often treat ourselves worse than we would treat a friend.
  • Self-talk significantly impacts our physical and mental health.
  • Negative self-talk can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • Awareness of self-talk is the first step to change.
  • Our brains simplify information based on past experiences.
  • Compassion for ourselves is crucial for personal growth.
  • Recognizing negative language can help in rewriting our stories.
  • Separating truth from interpretation can shift perspectives.
  • Imagining life without self-judgment can be liberating.
  • Workshops can provide tools for understanding and changing self-talk.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

👉 [Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens.]

Healing Shame: How Old Wounds Can Shape Your Health

September 1, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Healing Shame and the Stories We Carry

Stories definitely bite back at us and one of the reasons is shame. Shame is a quiet weight many of us carry without realizing it. It isn’t as obvious as anger or as urgent as fear. Instead, it lingers in the background—woven into our thoughts, choices, and even our biology. Healing shame can be a crucial component of physical health. It affects us insidiously, hijacking our nervous system and leading to many immunological and neurological issues.

And here’s what’s important to know: the shame that affects your health today didn’t start with your health. It often goes back much further—childhood criticisms, moments of humiliation, or times you felt like you didn’t belong. Recent evidence suggests that it could be a function of your ancestors.

Wherever it originated, old shame has a way of showing up in the present. And if it’s unseen, it quietly shapes your health.

How Shame Leaves Its Mark on the Body

Shame is not just an emotion—it’s a full-body state.

When shame arises, your nervous system reacts. Your shoulders hunch, your breath becomes shallow, and maybe you lower your eyes. The body literally curls in on itself, protecting you.

If that state gets repeated enough, it can become the default. Your nervous system learns: This is how we survive—guarded, tense, small.

And over time, that survival strategy changes your biology.

  • Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline stay elevated, raising your blood sugar levels and more.
  • Your immune system drifts toward chronic inflammation.
  • Digestion slows or becomes unpredictable.
  • Your ability to rest, repair, and heal shrinks.

This isn’t “mind over matter.” It’s mind shaping matter. The stories and emotions we carry really affect the body.

The Way Shame Shapes Behavior

Beyond the biology, shame influences daily choices. Without realizing it, we often make decisions that align with our hidden self-image.

If somewhere inside you feel unworthy, you might:

  • Put off seeking medical care.
  • Downplay symptoms until they become crises.
  • Reach for foods or habits that soothe in the moment but strain your health long-term.
  • Stay in stressful situations because you don’t believe you deserve better.

This isn’t self-sabotage. It’s self-consistency. Your body and mind are simply keeping the old story alive.

This Isn’t About Blame

If you see yourself in this, please know: you did not choose this. Healing shame requires you to dig deep within your psyche. You didn’t choose the experiences that planted the shame. You didn’t choose to carry it forward. And you certainly didn’t decide to let it affect your health. Your nervous system was doing its best to protect you. What we’re doing now is simply bringing the pattern into awareness—so you can release it. Having compassion for yourself and others lubricates the process.

Meeting Shame with Curiosity

Shame thrives in the shadows. It has the most power when it remains unnamed and unspoken. Healing shame requires looking at your shadow. (I’ll have another article about the shadow later in this series.)

The moment you meet it with gentle curiosity, its grip loosens.

Here’s a simple practice you can try:

  1. Notice the moment–when you feel the urge to hide, or the inner voice says, “You’re not enough,” pause.
  2. Locate it in the body–where do you feel it? Chest, stomach, shoulders?
  3. Name it without judgment-say to yourself: “This is shame.” Not “I’m bad,” just: This is shame.
  4. Ask softly–“When have I felt this before?” Let memories surface. Sometimes they go back decades. Don’t worry if nothing comes. And you don’t have to remember incidents to heal.
  5. Thank your body–it thought it was protecting you—and in a way, it was.

This isn’t about fixing shame in one session. It’s about slowly showing your body it’s safe to stand tall, breathe deeply, and release the old armor. Daily micro breakthroughs are how we change. 

Healing Without Forcing

The body doesn’t open under pressure. It opens when it feels safe.

That’s why in the Health-Story Workshop, we don’t push or pry. Instead, we create a safe space to explore the stories you’ve been carrying. When your body relaxes, your biology changes. And when your biology changes, healing becomes more possible.

Shame may have shaped your health quietly for years. Healing shame requires meeting it with compassion to loosen its hold.

Your body remembers how to be free. And when your body feels free, health has a way of following.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

👉 [Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens.]

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When Your Health Story Turns Against You

August 25, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

We’ve talked about how your health story is the ongoing narrative you carry — shaped by experiences, symptoms, diagnoses, and the voices of others. And in our last post, we explored how these stories can be incredibly helpful. They can guide you toward treatment, help you explain your experience to loved ones, and give meaning to what you’ve gone through.

But here’s the tricky part: the same story that once helped you can, over time, harm you.

The Shift You Don’t See Coming

It usually happens slowly.
A helpful story starts as something that explains your symptoms and gives you a sense of control. But over the months or years, it can quietly shift into something else — a limiter, a justification, or a hidden ceiling on what you believe is possible.

  • You used to say: “I can’t run because my knee injury hasn’t fully healed yet.”
  • Now it’s become: “I’m not a runner. I can’t do that. That’s not me anymore.”

The first statement leaves the door open for change. The second quietly shuts and locks it.

Why Stories Can Turn Sour

Your brain loves patterns. It wants to predict what will happen next so it can keep you safe. When you repeat a story to yourself, your mind takes it as a fact — something to plan around, not question.
This is a wonderful survival mechanism… until it isn’t. It’s like driving home from work on the same route every day for five years. You go on autopilot, creating danger if you stop paying attention.

If your story keeps you from exploring new options, trying something again, or re-imagining what healing could look like, it stops serving you and starts trapping you.

The Subtle Signs Your Health Story Has Turned on You

If you’ve been living with health challenges for a while, you might not notice when your story crosses the line from supportive to self-limiting. Here are a few subtle clues:

  • You use your health condition to explain more and more areas of your life that feel stuck.
  • You’ve stopped even considering certain activities, relationships, or goals because “that’s just not realistic for me.”
  • You feel a sense of resignation — as if this is simply “your lot” in life.
  • You notice you talk about your condition more than you talk about what you’re doing to feel better.
  • You spend more time on the internet researching your condition instead of living your life.

If you nodded along to more than one of these, it might be time for a rewrite.

How to Begin Rewriting a Limiting Story

You don’t have to bulldoze your current narrative or deny what’s true for you. This is about gently loosening the grip of a story that’s no longer helping you heal.

  1. Notice the language–listen to the way you describe yourself to others. Do your sentences end possibilities before they start?
  2. Separate fact from interpretation–“My doctor said I have X” differs from “I can never Y.”
  3. Play with “what if”–even if it feels silly, imagine how your life would look if this limitation weren’t there. What would you try? What would you reclaim?
  4. Gather counter-evidence–look for even minor examples of you doing more than your story claims is possible.

Why This Matters for Healing

When you loosen a limiting story, you open space for your brain and body to explore new patterns. You may find new energy for treatments, lifestyle changes, or therapies that once felt irrelevant. And sometimes, the simple act of re-imagining what’s possible changes your physiology — because you’re no longer bracing for a future you’ve already decided is hopeless.

Your story is powerful. If it’s helping you, keep it. If it’s hurting you, rewrite it. You are not locked inside it — you are the author.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

👉 [Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens.]

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The Impact of Attachment on Health

August 25, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode of Ask Dr. Gil, Dr. Gil Winkelman explores attachment theory and its impact on mental and physical health.

In this enlightening episode, we delve into the profound impact of attachment styles on our mental and physical well-being. Discover how early emotional bonds shape our stress responses, influence our relationships, and affect our overall health. He discusses the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they influence our relationships and health outcomes. The conversation delves into the connection between attachment styles and the nervous system, particularly cortisol levels, and emphasizes that attachment styles can change over time. Dr. Winkelman also offers insights into healing attachment styles through therapy, mind-body practices, and relationship strategies.

Join us as we explore the science behind attachment theory and its implications for personal growth and healing. Tune in to uncover insights that could transform your understanding of human connection and health.

 

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Takeaways

Attachment theory is crucial for understanding health and well-being.
Attachment styles can vary based on relationships, not just upbringing.
The four attachment styles are secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.
Anxious individuals are often more attuned to their environment.
Attachment styles can change over time and are not fixed.
Cortisol levels are influenced by attachment styles and can affect health.
Chronic dysregulation of the stress response leads to health issues.
Mind-body practices can help heal attachment-related issues.
Hugging for 60 seconds can release bonding hormones.
You are not broken; your attachment style is a survival mechanism.

attachment theory, health outcomes, mental health, physical health, nervous system, cortisol, secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment

 

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

👉 [Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens.]

The Positive Effects of Storytelling on Health

August 18, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode of “Ask Dr. Gil,” Dr. Gil Winkelman delves into the transformative power of storytelling on our health. Discover how narratives can serve as a guiding framework for understanding our behaviors, overcoming adversity, and fostering personal growth. Dr. Gil explores the dual nature of stories, highlighting their potential to both support and limit us, and offers insights into how we can harness storytelling to expand our possibilities and thrive. Tune in to learn how your personal narrative can be a powerful tool for healing and growth.

 

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Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

👉 [Sign up here to be the first to know when registration opens.]

Mind-Body Connection Healing: When Your Story Helps You Heal

August 18, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Last time, we explored the idea that holding onto a fixed story about your health can keep you stuck. Mind-body connection healing goes both ways. And here’s the thing—your story isn’t always the enemy. In fact, it probably got you through some very hard times.

Sometimes a story is like a walking stick when you’re climbing a steep trail: it supports you, keeps you balanced, and gives you the strength to keep going.

Maybe you’ve said things like:

“I’m a fighter. I don’t give up.”

“I’ve always been sensitive to my environment.”

“I just have to push through.”

Each of these could be part of a story that once helped you survive a health crisis, manage a chronic condition, or even protect your identity when you didn’t have answers. For a while, that story may have been a lifesaver.

A story sometimes gives us coherence and awareness. For example:

“Oh, I act that way in relationships because of how my parents treated me.”

“I reacted strongly to this situation because it reminded me of my ex.”

Here, the story gives context. We gain insight into our behavior or situation. This is powerful for many people.

Stories as Protection

When you first experience health challenges, the uncertainty can feel overwhelming. Your mind naturally reaches for meaning—something that explains what’s happening and gives you a sense of control.

In some sense, a diagnosis is a story. It paints a picture of what is happening in the body. For many, the diagnosis is a relief. Countless times, I have sat in front of patients who cry either knowing or not knowing what their diagnosis may be. And it can give you a roadmap of expectations.

A helpful story can:

Give you a framework for deciding.

Help you explain your situation to others.

Remind you that you can get through hard moments.

Offer comfort during times of fear or doubt.

When the Story Still Serves You

Is the mind-body connection healing or harming you? The test is simple: does your story expand your possibilities, or does it limit them?

If you’re finding new options for care, feeling more confident, and noticing progress—your story is probably still working for you.

For example:

“I can always improve my health.”

“My body responds well when I give it the right support.”

“I am learning what works best for me.”

These are empowering stories. They allow for growth, change, and new opportunities.

When the Story Holds You Back

But over time, even the most supportive story can become too small. Like a cast that once protected a broken bone, it can feel restrictive once healing begins.

If your story now keeps you from trying something new, exploring different approaches, or believing improvement is possible, it may be time to revise it.

That’s when the process I’ll explain in later posts will become important—learning how to recognize, question, and update your story so it works for your next chapter of healing.

Why We Start Here

Before we move into identifying and letting go of limiting stories, I want you to remember this: Your story likely helped you survive. It may have even saved you. That deserves acknowledgment—not shame or blame.

We’re not erasing your past. We’re making room for a future that’s even bigger than your current narrative.

Next time, we’ll talk about how to spot the moments when a once-helpful story has outlived its usefulness—and how to shift toward one that opens doors instead of closing them.

P.S. The Letting Go of the Story workshop will help you safely explore these questions—through guided journaling, somatic work, and small group healing. 
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The Stories We Tell Ourselves About Our Health (And How they Shape What’s Possible)

August 11, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

We all tell ourselves stories.
Some are easy to catch:
“I’m not a morning person.”
“I’ve always had a sensitive stomach.”
“I get sick every winter.”

Others operate more quietly in the background:
“I have to be productive to deserve rest.”
“My body is too broken to heal.”
“People like me don’t get better.”

We rarely see these as stories. They feel like facts. But what if they’re not? What if these inner narratives are shaping your health—your biochemistry, your immune system, even your pain—in ways you haven’t considered?

And what if the key to healing isn’t just in what you’re doing, but in what you’re believing?

Where These Stories Begin

Our health stories often start before we realize we’re telling them to ourselves. Maybe someone labeled you as “frail” or “dramatic” as a child.
Maybe a doctor told you your symptoms were “all in your head.”
Maybe you were the sibling who always got sick, or the student who couldn’t focus.
Maybe someone praised you for being “strong”—so you stopped showing pain, or acknowledged in yourself. 

Over time, we internalize those messages. They take root.
Not just in our minds—but in our tissues, our nervous system, our behavior.

These stories become our lens: how we interpret a symptom, how we respond to a setback, even how much healing we allow ourselves to expect.

What We Hide From Ourselves

Here’s something I’ve seen again and again in clinical practice:
The stories we carry about our health are often tangled up with parts of ourselves we’ve tried to hide.

We hide our fear of being seen as weak (or strong).
We hide our frustration that healing is taking so long. Or become impatient with our progress.
We hide our resentment at needing help.
We hide the parts of us that feel “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “not enough.”

This is the terrain of shadow work—making conscious what’s been buried.
When we avoid these parts, we don’t just hide them from others. We impede our healing process.

And here’s the kicker: the more we try to be perfect—flawless in our health routines, stoic in our suffering—the more energy we use up managing the image. Energy that could go toward healing.

The Hidden Cost of a Limiting Narrative

The problem with these health stories isn’t that they’re untrue.
They often come from lived experience. Trauma. Disappointment. Survival. Genetics.

But when a story gets repeated enough—“Nothing works for me,” “I’ll always be like this”—it becomes a kind of neurological script.
It shapes our thoughts. Our habits. Even our biology.

The nervous system listens. The immune system listens. The gut listens.
Every cell is paying attention to what you believe about yourself.

A belief like “I always crash after a trip” doesn’t just express caution—it can trigger the very stress response it fears.
A story like “I’m just broken” may keep you from fully committing to a new possibility.

And maybe the most dangerous belief of all:
“This is just who I am.”

It’s Not About Blame. It’s About Power.

If any of this resonates with you, please hear this clearly:

This is not your fault.

We all carry stories. Mostly, they protected us.
They helped us make sense of a world—or a body—that felt overwhelming. And if they originated in childhood, may have been a survival strategy in an unsafe place where you had no control.

But what protected you then may hold you back now.
The good news? These stories are not fixed. They’re editable. You can rewrite the script.

You can live in a new narrative—one where healing is possible, where your body is capable, and where your past does not get the last word.

Start With These Three Questions

Here are three powerful prompts to help you begin:

  1. What beliefs do I have about my body that I repeat often?
    (e.g., “I have terrible digestion,” “I’ll never sleep well,” “I’m just high-strung.”)
  2. Where did I first learn this belief?
    Was it something a doctor said? A parent implied? A role you had to play to survive?
  3. Is this story absolutely true—or just something that has been true?
    And if it’s no longer serving you…
    what might be possible if you gently let it go?

Healing Happens When We Come Home to Ourselves

Most people skip this part.
They go straight to the supplements, the diets, the protocols.

And those things matter—deeply. But they can only take you so far if, deep down, part of you believes you’re unfixable.
Or unworthy.
Or too much.
Or too broken.

Real healing starts when we stop abandoning ourselves.
When we bring light to the places we’ve pushed into the shadows.
When we release the need to be perfect—and instead become whole.

That’s what this work is about.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this resonates with you, I invite you to join me for my upcoming workshop:
“Letting Go of the Story: Healing Beyond Diagnosis.”

We’ll go step-by-step through the process of uncovering and gently releasing the narratives that keep us stuck—and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve pushed aside.

Because the truth is, you are more than your diagnosis.
More than your past.
And more than the story you’ve been told.

Healing begins when you believe that.

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