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How to Release the Past: Embracing What Is.

March 18, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Releasing the past is one of the most profound challenges many people face. Painful memories, regrets, or unresolved emotions can weigh us down, preventing us from fully embracing the present and shaping the future we desire. While it may seem like an impossible task, psychological principles provide effective ways to release the past and step into a more peaceful state of being. How to completely let go of the past is an important question in helping overall health.

Two key psychological concepts—the psychology of mind and allowing emotional experience instead of resisting—offer a powerful framework for letting go. By understanding how the mind works and learning to allow emotions rather than fight them, we can free ourselves from past burdens and move toward a more fulfilling life.

Understanding the Psychology of Mind and Letting Go

The Psychology of Mind (also known as 3 P’s psychology) is based on the understanding that our thoughts create our experience of reality. It is not events themselves that cause suffering, but the meaning and emotional weight we attach to them. This concept is at the heart of many psychological and spiritual traditions, emphasizing that we have the power to shift our perspective and our emotional experience.

People often struggle with the past because they believe that:

  • The past defines them. They see past mistakes or traumas as permanent labels rather than events from which to learn.
  • They need closure. They feel they must fix or resolve something before they can move on. But we don’t always get that opportunity.
  • Holding on protects them. They believe that staying attached to the pain will prevent future suffering. Holding on rarely protects us, but almost always increases suffering.

The past exists only in our minds. While its effects may feel real, our thoughts shape our relationship to the past. By changing our mindset and emotional response, we can transform our experience of the past and free ourselves from its grip.

The Power of Allowing Emotional Experience Instead of Resisting

One of the biggest obstacles to letting go of the past is emotional resistance. Many people suppress, ignore, or fight against painful emotions because they fear overwhelm. Resisting emotions only strengthen them, much like trying to hold a beach ball underwater—it takes energy, and eventually, it will pop back up.

Why Resistance Causes Suffering

Resistance creates inner conflict. When we reject emotions, we create a battle within ourselves, leading to stress and anxiety.

  • It keeps the pain alive. Suppressing emotions does not eliminate them; they remain stored in the subconscious and resurface in unexpected ways. Sometimes those emotions remain in the body, creating symptoms.
  • It prevents healing. Healing requires processing emotions, not avoiding them.
  • The alternative to resistance is allowing. This involves acknowledging, feeling, and accepting emotions without judgment. This approach is at the core of emotional freedom techniques like mindfulness, somatic therapy, the Sedona Method, and other techniques.

Practical Steps to Release the Past Using These Concepts

1. Recognize That Thoughts Are Not Reality

There’s a wonderful bumper sticker that says, “don’t believe everything you think.” Most people in our society do not question their thoughts. The past has no power over you except through your thoughts. One practice I recommend to patients is notice in how often you replay past events in your head. Don’t try to change anything, just watch as though watching a movie. Remind yourself:

“This is just a thought. It is not happening now.”

By understanding that your mind is generating these experiences rather than the past itself, you create space to detach and let go.

2. Allow Your Emotions Fully

When painful emotions arise, instead of resisting, try the following approach:

  • Pause and acknowledge the feeling. Say to yourself, “I am feeling sadness,” or “I notice anger arising.”
  • Allow the sensation. Feel where the emotion exists in your body without trying to change it.
  • Breathe into it. Imagine breathing space into the emotion rather than tightening around it.
  • Let it move naturally. Emotions, when fully felt, often dissipate on their own.

By allowing emotions to exist without suppression, you give them the space to process and release naturally.

3. Use the Sedona Method to Let Go

Similar to the above method, the Sedona Method, developed by Lester Levenson, is a powerful technique for emotional release. I really like this technique though it’s one that doesn’t work for everyone (what does?). It involves asking yourself a series of simple but profound questions:

  • Could I allow this feeling to be here?
  • Could I let it go?
  • Would I let it go?
  • When?

This method works by shifting your relationship to emotions. Instead of clinging to them, you practice allowing and releasing, which leads to a natural sense of inner freedom. And it also works on helping us overcome our resistance to change and letting go. For many people, understanding our resistance to the experience is transformative.

4. Reframe the Past with a New Perspective

Often, people hold on to the past because they have assigned it a painful meaning. However, you have the power to rewrite the story. Ask yourself:

  • What did this experience teach me?
  • How has this strengthened me or made me wiser?
  • Can I see this event as something that helped me grow rather than something that broke me?

By shifting the meaning, you change the emotional weight the past holds over you. Remember this. Physiologically, fear and excitement are the same. Reprogramming ourselves to experience around excitement instead of fear can be very freeing.

5. Practice Present-Moment Awareness

One of the most effective ways to let go of the past is to be fully present. To some extent, these ideas are all about being present. Mindfulness helps ground you in the now, where the past has no control. Simple practices include:

  • Breathing exercises. Focus on your breath to bring awareness to the present.
  • Body scans. Notice physical sensations to connect with the now.
  • Mindful activities. Engage fully in everyday tasks like walking or eating.

The more present you become, the less grip the past has on you.

6. Cultivate Self-Compassion

Many people hold on to the past because they judge themselves harshly. Self-compassion is key to healing. Try:

  • Speaking to yourself as you would a friend.
  • Forgiving yourself for past mistakes.
  • Acknowledging that growth comes from experience.

By treating yourself with kindness, you create an environment where letting go happens naturally.

Final Thoughts: Embracing Freedom from the Past

Releasing the past is not about erasing memories or denying experiences; it is about changing your relationship to them. By understanding that the mind creates suffering through thoughts, you gain the power to shift your perspective. By allowing emotions rather than resisting them, you free yourself from their grip.

Through awareness, emotional acceptance, and mindful release, you can move beyond the past and into a life of greater peace, presence, and joy. Remember, the past does not define you—your ability to grow, heal, and embrace the present moment does.

If you are struggling with how to release the past, I can help you work through this in different ways. Reach out to my office to learn more.

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