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When B6 Backfires: Understanding Functional B6 Deficiency and Toxicity

November 18, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

B vitamins are supposed to help you feel better — calmer, more focused, and energized. But functional B6 deficiency is a real problem. Often when people take vitamin B6 and start to feel worse — anxious, dizzy, or even tingly — it can be confusing and frustrating.

You might even test low in B6 on a lab panel and still react badly to supplements. How is that possible?

This is where we need to look deeper — beyond standard lab values — into what’s called functional B6 deficiency and paradoxical B6 toxicity.


1️⃣ Functional B6 Deficiency vs. True Deficiency

Most routine blood tests measure plasma pyridoxal 5’-phosphate (PLP) — the active form of B6 floating in your bloodstream. But that number doesn’t always tell the whole story.

You can appear “low” in B6 not because you’re not taking enough, but because your cells aren’t using it efficiently.

Here’s why that can happen:

  • Inflammation and oxidative stress can inactivate PLP or increase your body’s demand for it.

  • Genetic polymorphisms (like in ALDH7A1 or MTHFR) can slow the enzymes that convert B6 into its active form.

  • Metabolic bottlenecks in the liver can block activation, leaving you functionally deficient even with normal intake.

If you take high doses of B6 without addressing these underlying issues, you can overwhelm the system — and that’s when side effects appear.


2️⃣ B6 Intolerance or Sensitivity

For some, even small doses of B6 cause symptoms such as:

  • Nausea or dizziness

  • Tingling or “nerve” sensations

  • Irritability, anxiety, or fatigue

Most supplements use pyridoxine hydrochloride, a synthetic form that must be converted in the liver into PLP (the active form). If that conversion process is sluggish, unmetabolized pyridoxine builds up — and can act almost like a mild neurotoxin.

In my practice, I’ve seen people who “should” tolerate B6 but develop paradoxical symptoms because their body simply can’t clear the inactive form efficiently.


3️⃣ The Paradoxical B6 Toxicity Syndrome

This is where things get interesting — and confusing.
Some people show low B6 levels on lab work yet develop B6 toxicity symptoms (neuropathy, burning sensations, nerve pain) at small supplement doses.

Here’s the paradox:

  • You’re low in the active form (PLP).

  • But you’re accumulating the inactive form (pyridoxine).

  • The inactive form can block receptors and interfere with B6-dependent pathways.

The result? You feel worse when you try to fix what looks like a deficiency.

This is sometimes called “functional toxicity” — not because you’re overdosing, but because your metabolism can’t process what you’re giving it.


4️⃣ Other Complicating Factors

Several other systems can amplify this paradox:

  • Histamine and Mast Cell Activation: B6 helps break down histamine. When histamine levels are high (as in MCAS), sudden B6 changes can trigger unpredictable reactions.

  • Mineral imbalances: Copper, zinc, and riboflavin (B2) all influence B6 metabolism. If they’re out of sync, B6 can “misfire.”

  • Gut health: Poor digestion or dysbiosis can impair B6 absorption or conversion, increasing sensitivity.

In functional medicine, we see the body as a web — when one strand is off, the rest feels it.


🧭 Finding Balance: How to Work With Your B6 Pathway

If you’ve reacted to B6 or tested low but feel worse with supplements, here’s what may help:

  • Use the active form — pyridoxal-5’-phosphate (P5P) — instead of pyridoxine.

  • Start low — sometimes as little as 1–2 mg can make a difference.

  • Support conversion with magnesium, zinc, and riboflavin (B2) — all cofactors for B6 activation.

  • Address inflammation and oxidative stress, which drain B6 and impair its metabolism.

With the right balance, many people find they can tolerate B6 again — and experience the calm focus it’s meant to provide.


💡 The Bigger Picture

Vitamin B6 plays a central role in neurotransmitter production — serotonin, dopamine, GABA — and in detoxification, energy metabolism, and immune regulation.

So when something feels “off” with B6, it’s usually pointing to a deeper imbalance in how your body processes nutrients, stress, and inflammation.

In my clinic, we often uncover B6 sensitivity as part of a broader Walsh Protocol assessment, looking at methylation, copper-zinc balance, and oxidative stress markers. When these are addressed, sensitivity tends to ease — and the nervous system begins to stabilize.


🌿 Final Thoughts

If you’ve ever been told “you’re low in B6” but felt worse when you supplemented, you’re not imagining it.
Your body isn’t rejecting B6 — it’s asking for it in a form and rhythm it can actually use.

Functional medicine isn’t just about more nutrients; it’s about better communication between your body’s systems.
Once that communication is restored, even sensitive nutrients like B6 become allies again — helping you rebuild calm, clarity, and resilience from the inside out.

You can learn more about B6, testing, and how to optimize brain health through my new course. 

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Understanding Co-Regulation and Attachment Theory

November 17, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode of Ask Dr. Gill, Dr. Gill Winkelman delves into the intricate connections between yoga, co-regulation, and attachment theory. He emphasizes the importance of relationships, not just romantic ones, in our emotional and physical health. The discussion highlights how our nervous systems communicate and how co-regulation can aid in healing anxiety and emotional dysregulation. Dr. Winkelman also explores the role of friendships in mental health and the significance of self-soothing and co-regulation in achieving emotional stability.
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Takeaways

  • Yoga and community play a vital role in healing.
  • Co-regulation is essential for emotional health.
  • Friendships significantly impact our mental well-being.
  • Understanding attachment theory helps in emotional regulation.
  • The vagus nerve is crucial for feeling safe.
  • Breath work can help calm the nervous system.
  • Emotions can be processed in 90 seconds.
  • Self-soothing is a learned skill.
  • Healing occurs in connection with others.
  • Letting go is key to emotional healing.
Sound Bites

  • “Emotions last for only 90 seconds.”
  • “Healing begins with co-regulation.”
  • “We heal in connection with others.”

#yoga #co-regulation #attachmenttheory #nervoussystem, #emotionalhealth, #healing, #relationships, #anxiety, #self-soothing, #mindfulness

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Yoga, Co-Regulation, and Attachment Theory
10:30 The Importance of Relationships in Healing
18:15 Healing Through Co-Regulation and Self-Awareness

 

Food Additive Safety Regulations: US vs. The World

November 10, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

The conversation explores the differing approaches to food safety regulations between the United States and other countries, particularly focusing on the FDA’s ‘generally regarded as safe’ standard and contrasting it with the more precautionary principles adopted by the European Union and Japan.
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Takeaways

  • In the United States, food is often considered safe unless proven harmful.
  • The FDA uses the term ‘generally regarded as safe’ for food substances.
  • Other countries, like those in the EU and Japan, require proof of safety before allowing food products.
  • The approach to food safety can vary significantly between regions.
  • Consumer protection is a key aspect of food safety regulations.
  • Understanding these differences is crucial for global food trade.
  • The conversation aims to inform rather than alarm about food safety issues.
  • Regulatory frameworks can impact public health outcomes.
  • The discussion highlights the importance of transparency in food safety.
  • Awareness of food safety regulations can empower consumers.

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#FoodAdditives #BannedFoods #FoodSafety #OrganicLiving #DetoxYourBody #HealthyEating #NutritionAwareness #CleanEating #HealthTips #WellnessJourney #holistichealth #healing

The Truth Behind Food Reactions

November 3, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this conversation, Gil Winkelman discusses the complexities of food sensitivity testing, emphasizing that a long list of reactive foods does not necessarily indicate allergies. He highlights the importance of identifying underlying issues in the body to facilitate healing rather than solely focusing on the foods themselves.

Takeaways

  • Food sensitivity testing may not accurately measure sensitivities.
  • A long list of reactive foods doesn’t mean allergies.
  • Identifying root causes is crucial for healing.
  • Healing often involves addressing systemic issues.
  • Food reactions can be complex and multifaceted.
  • Understanding your body is key to wellness.
  • Not all food reactions are due to allergies.
  • Holistic approaches can aid in healing.
  • Nutrition plays a vital role in health.
  • Listening to your body is essential.

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  • “Food sensitivity tests may or may not actually be measuring food sensitivities.”
  • “It doesn’t mean you’re allergic to everything.”
  • “Finding the cause of that is most useful as far as helping you heal.”
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Unlocking the Healing Power of Yoga

October 27, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In this episode, Dr. Gil Winkelman explores the multifaceted benefits of yoga, emphasizing its role in mind-body healing. He discusses how yoga can alleviate anxiety, improve physical and mental flexibility, and enhance overall well-being. The episode also touches on the importance of community in yoga practice and the impact of nutrition on health.

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yoga, mind-body healing, anxiety relief, physical flexibility, mental flexibility, community health, nutrition, meditation, breath work, holistic health

Takeaways

 

  • Yoga is a powerful modality for mind-body healing.
  • Practicing yoga can help alleviate anxiety and promote calmness.
  • Yoga enhances both physical and mental flexibility.
  • Community involvement in yoga can foster a sense of belonging and support.
  • Breath work in yoga activates the vagus nerve, promoting relaxation.
  • Proper nutrition is crucial for optimal health and complements yoga practice.
  • Meditation, as part of yoga, supports emotional regulation and mental clarity.
  • Hydration is essential for maintaining physical performance and decision-making.
  • Yoga encourages listening to your body and tuning into its needs.
  • The practice of yoga is not just about movement but also about holistic well-being.

 

Sound bites

 

  • “Yoga is a powerful modality for healing.”
  • “Breath work activates the vagus nerve.”
  • “Community in yoga fosters belonging.”
  • “Yoga enhances mental flexibility.”
  • “Proper nutrition complements yoga practice.”
  • “Meditation supports emotional regulation.”
  • “Hydration is key for performance.”
  • “Yoga is about holistic well-being.”
  • “Listen to your body through yoga.”
  • “Yoga promotes calmness and clarity.”

 

Chapters

  • 00:00:00 Introduction to Yoga’s Benefits
  • 00:03:00 Yoga and Anxiety Relief
  • 00:06:00 Physical and Mental Flexibility
  • 00:09:00 Community and Yoga
  • 00:12:00 Breath Work and Relaxation
  • 00:15:00 Nutrition and Health
  • 00:18:00 Meditation and Emotional Regulation

 

The Power of Responsibility in Healing Chronic Illness

October 20, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Summary

In this episode of Ask Dr. Gil, Dr. Gil Winkelman discusses the challenges of healing chronic illness and the importance of taking responsibility for one’s health without falling into the trap of self-blame. He emphasizes the need for compassion towards oneself and the power of curiosity over judgment in the healing process. The conversation also touches on the significance of letting go of fixed identities and stories that may hinder personal growth and healing.

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Takeaways

Having a chronic illness can be very trying for most people.
There is a responsibility we all have for our own health.
Blame creates chaos and doesn’t solve problems.
Compassion can be very healing for a lot of people.
We are oftentimes our own worst critics.
Letting go can create space for healing.
Curiosity opens a door, judgment shuts it.
Stories we tell ourselves can perpetuate our struggles.
Everything is always changing, including who we are.
Letting go of story can lead to healing beyond diagnosis.

#chronicIllness #Selfblame #healing #compassion

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Letting Go of the Diagnosis: Healing Beyond Labels

October 13, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Symptoms can help us find a diagnosis. For many people, finally getting a diagnosis feels like a turning point.

It can be a huge relief:

  • At last, there’s an explanation.
  • At last, there’s a name for what you’ve been living with.
  • At last, some proof that you’re not “making it up.”

And yet, I’ve also seen how that same diagnosis can quietly turn into a kind of cage.

What starts as “Now I know what I’m working with” sometimes becomes:

  • “I am hypothyroid.”
  • “I’m a Lyme patient.”
  • “I’m bipolar.”
  • “I’m ADHD.”

The label that once felt freeing becomes an identity. And when that happens, healing often slows down—or even stalls—without us realizing why.

The Double-Edged Sword of Diagnosis

To be clear: diagnosis itself isn’t the enemy.

It can be life-changing. It can guide treatment, open doors to resources, and validate years of confusing symptoms.

But a diagnosis is just a snapshot. It’s a way of naming patterns, labs, and symptoms in this moment. It’s not a prophecy. It’s not your personality. And it’s definitely not your destiny.

The trouble begins when the story shifts from:

  • “I’m experiencing this” → “I am this.”

That subtle shift changes the way you relate to your body, the choices you make each day, and even what your nervous system expects for your future.

The Invisible Subtitles

Every diagnosis carries a hidden story. Sometimes it’s said outright:

  • “There’s no cure.”
  • “It only gets worse.”
  • “You’ll just have to manage it.”

Other times, you simply absorb it—through tone, statistics, or the way people stop expecting recovery.

Your brain and body are always listening. Even if no one says it directly, the nervous system gets the message. And once that seed is planted, it influences biology:

  • You brace for flare-ups.
  • You stop exploring new approaches.
  • You begin to expect decline.

This isn’t weakness. It’s human nature—our brains prefer predictability, even if it limits possibility. But healing rarely flourishes in the soil of hopelessness.

You Are Not Your Diagnosis

One of the most powerful shifts you can make is separating who you are from what you’re experiencing.

Instead of saying:

  • “I’m a chronic fatigue patient.”
    Try: “I’ve been navigating fatigue, and I’m learning what my body needs.”

Instead of:

  • “I’m a depressed person.”
    Try: “I’ve been experiencing depression symptoms, and I’m supporting my brain and body as they rebalance.”

Language isn’t just semantics—it changes biology. Research shows that people who see themselves as active participants in their health, rather than passive victims, have stronger immune function, more symptom improvement, and greater resilience.

This isn’t “toxic positivity.” It’s neuroscience.

What Story Are You Living?

If you’ve carried a diagnosis for years, it may feel woven into your identity. It may have given you community or even purpose. That’s not wrong.

But it’s worth asking:

  • Who am I beyond this label?
  • What parts of me have been overshadowed?
  • What might become possible if I stopped expecting the worst?

These aren’t questions of denial. They’re invitations to expand.

Your Body Is Not Fixed

Remember: your body is always changing.

  • Cells regenerate.
  • Nerves rewire.
  • Hormones shift.
  • Gut microbiomes restore.
  • Emotional patterns evolve.

Even if the diagnosis remains in your medical chart, it doesn’t have to define your daily reality.

Healing is the shift from:

  • Reaction → Relationship
  • Control → Curiosity
  • Fear → Possibility

That’s what it means to live beyond the label.

Three Ways to Begin

  1. Shift Your Language
    Notice when you say, “I am [condition].” Experiment with:
  • “My body is navigating…”
  • “I’m learning how to support…”
  • “My health is changing, and I’m listening.”
  1. Reclaim What Got Overshadowed
    Ask yourself:
  • What brings me joy outside of my health?
  • Who was I before this?
  • What do I still long for?
    Let healing include pleasure—not just protocols.
  1. Visualize Beyond the Diagnosis
    Spend a few minutes imagining:
  • Inflammation cooling
  • Energy flowing
  • A future you living with ease, trust, and vitality

This isn’t fantasy—it’s mental rehearsal, and neuroscience shows it changes your immune system and your brain.

A diagnosis can be a tool. It can be a map. But it is never the full story of you.

You are a dynamic, responsive, ever-changing being.

So I’ll leave you with this:
👉 Are you ready to step beyond the label? And if so—what new story might your body be waiting to tell?

✨ Ready to step beyond the label?

If you’ve been carrying a diagnosis—or a health story—that feels heavier than it needs to be, you don’t have to untangle it alone.

I created the Stories Workshop as a safe, powerful space to explore how the narratives we inherit, absorb, and repeat quietly shape our biology—and how to shift them so healing becomes possible again.

It’s 2.5 hours of guided reflection, practical tools, and community support to help you move from “this is who I am” to “this is what I’m experiencing—and it can change.”

Because your diagnosis may describe you today, but it does not define who you are becoming.

👉 Join the next Stories Workshop here Sign up now and receive a free eBook to help break your patterns.

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Unraveling the Mysteries of Vitamin B6

October 13, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

 

In this episode of Ask Dr. Gil, Dr. Gil Winkelman delves into the complexities of Vitamin B6 and its active form, P5P. He clarifies common misconceptions, discusses the importance of proper dosage, and highlights the potential for sensitivities and intolerances. The conversation also touches on the role of B6 in numerous bodily functions and the implications of deficiencies, particularly in relation to mental health. Dr. Winkelman emphasizes the need for a balanced approach to supplementation and the importance of understanding individual health needs.

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  • There’s a lot of confusion about B6 and P5P.
  • B6 and P5P are the same vitamin; one is active.
  • Functional deficiency can exist even with normal blood levels.
  • Pyrrole disorder can lead to functional deficiencies in B6.
  • B6 is involved in over 350 reactions in the body.
  • Too much B6 can cause neurological issues.
  • B6 sensitivity can manifest as anxiety and fatigue.
  • Biofilm in the intestines can block nutrient absorption.
  • Histamine issues can complicate B6 supplementation.
  • Taking too much folate can also be harmful.

You can learn more with my online course Eliminate Anxiety Naturally at https://askdrgil.com/reduce-anxiety-naturally-course/. I also offer a shorter, course about why folates make your anxiety worse https://askdrgil.com/methylation-mini-course/ which goes through the methylation cycle in much greater detail.

Finding Calm in Motion: The Science and Soul of Yoga for Anxiety

October 12, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

Anxiety doesn’t always announce itself with panic.
Sometimes, it’s the constant hum in the background — a tightness in the chest, a restless night’s sleep, or the feeling that your body is “on” even when you’re trying to rest.

If you’ve ever wished you could turn down the volume on your nervous system, yoga might be one of the simplest, most powerful ways to do it. Yoga is not just good for the body, but for the mind too.

🌿 When Your Body Forgets How to Relax

Anxiety isn’t just “in your head.”
It’s a full-body experience — an over-activation of the sympathetic nervous system that keeps your body in “fight, flight, or freeze.”

When this system gets stuck in overdrive, even small stressors feel overwhelming. Muscles stay tense, breathing gets shallow, and your brain receives the message that you’re not safe — even when you are.

That’s where yoga comes in.

🧘‍♀️ Yoga as a Nervous System Reset

Yoga works because it teaches your body how to feel safe again.
Every slow movement and mindful breath communicates to your brain: You can relax now. It’s okay.

Here’s what actually happens when you practice:

  • Your breath deepens, activating the vagus nerve — the body’s natural brake pedal for anxiety.
  • Muscle tension releases, sending calming signals to the brain.
  • Heart rate and cortisol levels drop, improving your ability to focus and rest.
  • Your awareness expands, so instead of being trapped in anxious thoughts, you start to feel what’s happening and respond with gentleness.

Many yoga asanas help you move breath to movement. This encourages the body to slowdown and relaxation to flood the body. Over time, yoga retrains your nervous system to recognize safety — not as an idea, but as a felt experience.

🧠 The Mind-Body Connection Reinforced

Anxiety disconnects us from our bodies. Yoga restores that connection through embodiment — the practice of being fully present in your physical self.

When you move with awareness — feeling your feet on the mat, your breath in your ribs, your heart rate slowing — your body becomes a source of calm instead of alarm.

That’s why research shows yoga can reduce symptoms of anxiety, improve sleep, and increase emotional regulation. It literally strengthens the communication between your body and brain. The parasympathetic nervous system gets reset which likely is related to the vagus nerve.

💗 Beyond the Mat: Bringing Calm Into Everyday Life

The real power of yoga isn’t just what happens during class — it’s what changes afterward.
People often notice they:

  • React less strongly to stress.
  • Recover more quickly after emotional upsets.
  • Feel grounded and present instead of “spinning out.”

Even 10–15 minutes a day can create real shifts. It’s not about flexibility — it’s about retraining your physiology to support peace.  Studies also suggest yoga slows the aging process. (Or maybe even reverses it). The telomeres, (the ends of chromosomes), lengthen reversing cellular aging.

🌸 A Gentle Place to Begin

If anxiety has made your body feel like an unpredictable place, start slow.
Choose gentle, restorative, or breath-focused yoga. Let go of striving for perfect poses.
Instead, let each movement remind you: This is my body, and I can return home to it. Use the poses as an opportunity to settle back into your body. Focus on your breath to settle into your body.

Over time, that message becomes stronger than anxiety itself.

✨ Final Thoughts

Yoga isn’t a cure-all, but it’s one of the most effective, body-based tools for calming the nervous system and re-establishing inner safety. When combined with other integrative approaches — like neurofeedback, nutrient support, and mindfulness — it becomes part of a holistic blueprint for peace.

Your body already knows how to heal.
Yoga simply helps it remember.

If you’d like to learn more about the benefits of yoga, check out my book “Feel Well, Play Well: Amazing Golf through Whole Health.” It’s not just about golf and includes a few yoga series to help you get started. Plus it includes other basic treatments useful for anyone that are related to yoga. Enjoy!

Also, check out my Eliminated Anxiety Naturally natural online course.

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Who Are You Without the Struggle?

October 6, 2025 by Dr. Gil Winkelman Leave a Comment

In the healing journey, a strange thing can happen:

You felt better.

You sleep through the night. You go a whole week without a flare-up. You laugh. You rest. You notice silence where there used to be pain.

And then—almost immediately—you tense.

A quiet voice says: “Don’t get your hopes up.” “This probably won’t last.” “Who am I if I’m not working on getting better?”

That’s when you realize the struggle itself has become part of your identity. And now, healing asks you to do something even scarier than trying harder.

It asks you to let go of the struggle. To live as a person who no longer needs to fight. To change your identity.

Healing as a Full-Time Job

When you’ve been in the world of chronic illness, burnout, anxiety, or trauma recovery, your healing work often becomes all-consuming.

You learn to track every symptom and manage your schedule around your energy. You study protocols, track labs, stack supplements. You surround yourself with communities where “the struggle” is the dominant language.

None of this is wrong. In fact, much of it is necessary—especially when the medical system hasn’t helped or believed you.

But after a while, it’s easy to mistake healing work for who you are.

It becomes your focus, your identity, your story.

When the Body Is Ready—But the Mind Isn’t

Here’s something I’ve seen repeatedly:

A person’s body begins to heal. The inflammation decreases, and the gut improves. The nervous system stabilizes. Energy returns.

But the mind doesn’t know how to live without the struggle.

It waits for the other shoe to drop, expecting a relapse. It keeps scanning for danger—even if the danger is gone.

This isn’t sabotage. It’s survival.

For months, years, or decades, your nervous system has been in hypervigilance. You have tied your identity to “I’m the one who’s still healing.”

Letting go of that struggle means facing a new unknown: Who am I when I’m no longer defined by this?

Struggle Gives a Sense of Control—Even When It Hurts

The struggle can feel strangely safe.

It gives structure. (Something to work on, something to fix.)

It provides identity. (You’re the strong one. The determined one. The sensitive one.)

It connects you to a community. (People who “get it.”)

It fills time and space. (Without it, what would you do—or feel?)

So when the struggle lifts, a strange grief can emerge. It can feel like losing something familiar—even if it was painful.

This is normal. And it’s okay to feel it.

But don’t confuse grief with failure. This is not a sign that something is wrong. It’s a sign that a new story is trying to be born.

Beyond the Struggle: A New Way of Being

You don’t have to go back to the person you were before. You don’t have to become someone entirely new, either.

You are allowed to become someone who carries the wisdom of the struggle—but no longer needs it to define them.

Someone who says:

“I used to live in survival mode. Now I choose peace.”

“I don’t need to be sick to justify slowing down.”

“I can trust joy, even if I’m still learning how.”

Healing becomes less about effort—and more about allowing.

You stop performing your progress and collecting symptoms like proof. You stop waiting for permission to feel good.

And instead… you live. You rest. You create. You connect. You begin again.

Three Practices to Explore Who You Are Without the Struggle

1. Make Room for “What Now?” Instead of “What’s Wrong?”

Your mind may be trained to look for the next problem. That’s okay. You can gently ask:

“If nothing is wrong in this moment, what would I want to feel or do?”

This practice shifts your attention from symptom-scanning to soul-listening. For many people, this is very challenging. But the benefits are immense. 

2. Reclaim Desire—Not Just Duty

Many people only allow themselves to rest or play after doing enough healing work. But what if pleasure, art, connection, and joy were part of healing—not the reward for it?

Ask yourself:

What do I want to create that has nothing to do with fixing myself?

What kind of life am I building now that my energy is coming back?

What used to light me up that I’ve set aside?

Let your life be about more than maintenance.

3. Create a New Self-Story

Take 10 minutes and journal from this prompt:

“I am no longer someone who struggles all the time. I am now someone who…”

Let the words flow. Don’t edit or censor. Just see what emerges.

This is where the new story begins.

You Don’t Have to Struggle to Deserve Healing

You don’t have to earn your peace or prove yourself. You don’t have to struggle to be worthy of rest, ease, or health.

You are allowed to live beyond the fight. To move through life without waiting for the next shoe to drop. To soften, expand, and trust—even if only in small moments.

That’s what real healing is.

Not the absence of symptoms. But the presence of freedom.

Next up: “The New Story: How to Begin Again.”

Our last post in this series will guide you in consciously creating a new health story—one built on trust, presence, and possibility.

Until then, let this question echo:

Who am I when I no longer need the struggle to know myself?

And what would it feel like… to live the answer?

P.S. In the Letting Go of the Story workshop, we’ll walk this exact path—through reflection, embodied practice, and new story creation. It’s your time. Join the interest list here 

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